Diary of a Leader: When Leaders Don’t Follow the Process
- Lindsay Sheldrake
- Oct 12
- 3 min read
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Ah, leadership. It asks us to model the very discipline we expect from others, and it has a way of holding up a mirror when we don’t.
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If you’ve ever built a great process that your team keeps ignoring, or found yourself bending the rules "just this once," this one might hit close to home.
The Story: When Process Meets Exception
A few months ago, I was working with a leadership team to review weekly project priorities and why certain milestones had slipped.
As we unpacked the discussion, it became clear that one project had gone off track because a key team member had been reassigned midway through a critical stage. The shift caused delays, confusion, and strain on both the budget and the delivery schedule.
When I asked what had prompted the change, the team shared that a new client project had been fast-tracked into production before the team had capacity and before a deposit was received.
When we traced the decision back, it turned out the business leader had made a call to "just get started" on what they saw as a promising opportunity. The intent was good. The impact was not.
The company had a clear process in place: wait one to two weeks after receiving a deposit before kickoff. That time buffer allows for proper scheduling and protects existing commitments. But as we talked it through, it became clear this "one-off" wasn’t unique. It had become a habit.
What It Taught Me About Process
Here’s the truth: if a process is only followed when it’s convenient, it isn’t really a process, it’s a suggestion.
And when leaders are the ones breaking their own rules, the system unravels quickly. The team sees it. They internalize it. And without meaning to, they begin treating structure as optional too.
It’s not about control or rigidity. Process exists to protect focus, quality, and capacity. It keeps promises from colliding and ensures teams can deliver their best work without constant fire drills.
When leaders step outside those boundaries, even with good intentions, it sends a message that process is negotiable. The short-term win, a quick client yes, often leads to long-term cost, lost time, budget overruns, and exhausted teams.
The Ripple Effect of Skipping Process
Every time a process is skipped, the cost compounds.
Projects slip, communication fractures, and trust starts to fray.
The irony? These breakdowns rarely come from a lack of systems. They come from a lack of consistency.
When a senior leader breaks their own rule, it’s not just a scheduling issue, it’s a culture signal. The team stops believing that the process matters, and accountability becomes harder to uphold.
Leaders don’t just set strategy; they set tone.
The Leadership Lesson: Integrity in Action
If you expect your team to follow the system, you have to show them what it looks like. Leadership integrity isn’t about being perfect; it’s about being consistent.
Reflection Prompts for Leaders
Where do I unintentionally bypass the systems I’ve asked others to uphold?
What message does that send to my team about priorities and accountability?
How might I model patience, even when opportunity feels urgent?
Strong leadership isn’t about saying "do as I say." It’s about showing, through action, what discipline looks like in motion.
Wrapping Up: Process as a Leadership Promise
That experience reminded me that process is more than a checklist. It’s a promise, one that builds reliability, trust, and calm inside a growing business.
When leaders treat process as optional, chaos seeps in. But when they honor it, they give their teams the freedom to do their best work with confidence and rhythm.
Here’s the takeaway: consistency is the quiet power behind sustainable growth.
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Stay tuned for more real-world lessons on leadership, operational clarity, and purposeful growth in the next installment of Diary of a Leader. Because leading teams and managing projects isn’t about doing it all. It’s about focusing on what matters most—and doing it with intention, rhythm, and excellence.
